Sex in a Pan - the Lucky 13 Version

"Yes, this is the thirteenth entry for this particular recipe, and yes, it is different from all the rest. This is one of the most requested desserts I have. Easy to put together, and ohhhhhh soooooo gooooood. (People actually make strange noises while eating it.) It will keep for a few days in the fridge, but only if you padlock the door. :) Cooking time does not include the time needed for chilling. NOTE: whipped cream is measured after it has been whipped."
photo by Diana 2 photo by Diana 2
photo by Diana 2
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  • Beat together the butter and sugar. Blend in flour, then stir in the chopped pecans.
  • Press mixture into a 9 x 13 pan. Bake for 25 minutes at 350*. Cool.
  • Combine cream cheese, and icing sugar. Add 2 cups whipped cream.
  • Pour this mixture over the crust.
  • Combine both pudding mixes with the milk. Pour over cheese mixture.
  • Ice with 1-1/2 cups whipped cream and sprinkle with grated chocolate.
  • Chill for at least 4 hours before serving.

Questions & Replies

  1. Why mix the two puddings together? Older versions of this recipe, the two puddings are made separately. As per your recipe it asks for 2 cups of milk for both boxes of pudding. Would you add 1 cup of milk to each pudding flavors, if you wanted to make them seperately?
  2. Do you mix the chocolate pudding and vanilla pudding together
  3. I made this desert today for my cousins birthday I've let it chill for 5 hours now and when I went to take it out its runny? what did i do wrong? please help!!!


  1. I was looking for this recipe again as it was always a hit with both family and friends and I wanted my "new" husband to taste it. This recipe is the best. I do not understand the previous reviews as there is much talk about the puddings and various measurements of milk. Perhaps they are referring to an old recipe. The puddings are mixed together, as stated in this recipe with TWO cups of milk, as posted. The pudding will be thick. That is how you want it to be. The puddings are not made separately (look at the photo). Cool the cream cheese layer in the fridge for about 10 minutes just to firm it up a bit. then drop spoonfuls of the pudding all over the cream cheese layer and using a spatula, LIGHLTY spread the pudding. I also occasionally wet my spatula s as well. Treat the pudding as you would an icing on a cake. Further to this ensure that you whip the cream prior to the measurements (2 cups would be 2 cups of cream that is whipped) I made an error when I was softening my butter in the microwave by hitting the wrong buttons and ended up with melted butter. I added it to the flour anyway, and then only baked the crust for 15 minutes. Turned out well. This is a great recipe and everyone (except people like my daughter who does not like the taste of caramel-the puddings combined somewhat have that flavor) !
  2. We have this every Christmas.. Deadly. Has to be eaten pretty near frozen or it is too rich!
    • Review photo by dougz
  3. To Diane N. , for spreading the pudding over the cream cheese, be sure that the cr cheese layer is well chilled first. Then for spreading consistency of the pudding, it works well when you use the amount of milk called for (I used 2 cups per pkg, as I wanted mine a little firmer) and it spread well...
  4. Amazing. I used it in a spring form pan and used walnuts instead. It turned out awesome. I would have chopped my nuts finer though I.e in a food processor as the chopped nuts were slightly larger than I would have liked. Thank you my mother in law loved it.
  5. Oh Diana....this is the exact recipe that I use. I have lost my copy and now it is here. I have planned on making it next week when we have guests. I was thinking of desserts for a hot day...not wanting to bake. And this fits the bill. I know all about the strange Thank you for sharing.


  1. I doubled the recipe and used a larger glass pan. I also replaced 1 cup of milk in the pudding with Bailey's Irish cream and added a splash to the cream cheese mixture as well.



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