My friend Chandra gave me this recipe years ago and the only thing I changed is that I use water and milk. Her family recipe used just 2 cups of water. To me this is very sweet. If you don't have a very sweet tooth cut down on the sugar used in the recipe. I like it best cold (it tastes less sweet then when its warm) and serve it as a dessert after an Indian dinner, cut in wedges or diamond shapes and sprinkled with some very finely chopped nuts. It reheats easy in the microwave if you should prefer it warm. Ghee/clarified butter is sold in Asian supermarkets. If you want serve with some whipped cream.