The groom’s cake is a dark, moist fruitcake that is steamed. It may be made months in advance and frozen. It is presented unfrosted and golden brown, but may be decorated with one long graceful sprig of the fresh herb rosemary, which symbolizes remembrance. There are two traditions associated with the groom’s cake. One is that it is cut into small squares, which are then individually wrapped to be given to each departing guest to take home. One slips the cake under his or her pillow that night in hopes of dreaming of the person he or she will marry. The other custom is to either freeze or preserve the groom’s cake—by regularly dousing it with brandy—until the first year anniversary celebration. The anniversary couple eat a piece and share the rest to celebrate. You will need a plain, round mold, 8 inches in diameter and 3 inches deep.