My cousin, who feels more like a sister to me, lived in Jakarta, Indonesia, for many years with her hubby and delightful daughters. When she makes Lemper the whole family comes running - kids, too! I have trouble shaping them, but work with it, you'll find your groove. No matter how they look, they're wonderfully tasty. In our opinion this MUST be served with sweet garlic sauce, such as Mae Ploy. You can sub macadamia nuts for the candlenuts, and for the kaffir lime leaves, maybe a teaspoon of lime zest and 1 bay leaf. I can't get banana leaves in my town. You can use corn husks, they work very well. YUMMY!