What would you do? (long)

[seashell]

You do NOT have a weakness if you need a scooter, wheelchair, cane or whatever, you have a disability. You would not last 30 minutes at Disney without some sort of scooter, wheelchair or the like. You are NOT drawing attention to yourself. LOTS of people need these "mechanical aids" It may sound like he is being generous with his "gift" to you for a vacation at Disney. But to me he is being SELFISH AND CHILDISH if he won't let you go because of your physical limitations. Your son needs to grow up or get some maturity. I hope you get to go.

[BB502]

Thank you all so much! I just found out yesterday, that I have to have surgery on my left leg to remove a cyst behind my knee that is tangled in with nerves. I also need additional surgery for two large cysts in my bowel. So, I won't be traveling anywhere for awhile. I can't walk and can't sit comfortably.

I agree with many of you....I am not writing a letter, nor contacting them, at all. I am simply going to "take care" of my health and DH's health ( he is having major eye surgery next week and lung biopsies the following week) So God stepped in and decided for us. We are so sad and hurt that Son and DIL are like this....and don't want to understand. They still haven't contacted us As you 've said, they have been Blessed with good health and Life's been very good to them....so they don't know what may happen in ones lifetime. My DH became disabled at age 28 with Pulmonary Fibrosis (Lungs) and I carried the Family until I became disabled in 2005 due to a very bad auto accident and inhaling chemical fumes at work. Since both happened at same time, I had to resign from work with no benefits. We live a very meager life style and both just turned 66. We NEVER expected our Son to act this way after watching us try to just survive. We were always upbeat and had positive outlook to making things work out....just don't understand?

Thank you again, for releaving some of the depression and pain for us.
The HUGS are really appreciated!

[Chipfo]

This is sad. I agree that your son is playing games, I feel he knew fully well that you couldn't go without walking aids and it got him off the hook.

Part of my family is like that, rich and "better" than everyone else, I am a family type guy and I don't even like being around them, it is my 1st cousins. Nice luxurous home, money to do anything. This year at the Christmas party, they bought presents for each one of my Brother's 4 kids, then informed my Brother that he needed to bring money to re-pay them for the gifts!!

Oh the senerios I came up with, but bit my tounge for family's sake. I wanted so bad to blurt out "OK kids, chip-in your Christmas money because Katherin and Brady wants to be payed back for the gifts they gave you!" Just to see the look on their faces in front of everyone, but I bit my tounge.

I do get them back though, by getting their kids wound up like a 9 day clock right before we walk out the door

IMO, people like your son and my cousins do not deserve the money they have and should have to spend at least a year in poverty before their money is returned.

[Leggy Peggy]

Chipfo wrote:

IMO, people like your son and my cousins do not deserve the money they have and should have to spend at least a year in poverty before their money is returned.

Ditto!

[~Robyn~]

BB502 wrote:
Our Son doesn't like weakness in any form. He is, we believe, ashamed of us because it draws attention...I know when I use a cane, he gets upset. I asked if I could rent a Scooter in Orlando, and he fumed at me and said I could sit all by myself in the hot sun, in my Scooter, while they rode rides and went in exhibits....in other words DO NOT use anything to draw attention. That's all we know, he won't talk to us.
He doesn't know the extent of our illnesses because we can't discuss them with him or his wife. I did leave a message last week, letting him know that I had a TIA stroke and was ill and that his Dad just found out he is losing his sight in one eye, and needs surgery....nothing, no phone call. He is our only child and we thought we raised him right. ???

Forgot to mention that Son and DIL gifted a trip to her parents to Hawaii and the four of them went in January. Do you think that maybe he felt he HAD to gift us some sort of trip, like Orlando FL, to make him look good??

I am so sorry for this situation. I did not read all the replies but I think your son is very wrong in this situation. First of all I
am thank God an able bodied woman and all that activity would be difficult for me! Your son if he is ashamed of you is unfortunately very immature and harsh. I don't think he gifted you because he had to but it would have been nice to gift you with something relaxing like Hawaii! I hope that he finds it in his heart to wake up and realize that life is short. This was a babble but I am really upset by this. Hugs to you and your husband.

[~Robyn~]

Leggy Peggy wrote:

Chipfo wrote:

IMO, people like your son and my cousins do not deserve the money they have and should have to spend at least a year in poverty before their money is returned.

Ditto!

I love this!